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[Shereefah]

Individuals Who've Gone No Contact With Friends and family Offer The Moment They Chose To Cut Ties.

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See, removing a friend or family member can be extreme in some cases, however occasionally, you get somebody who accomplishes something so horrendous and reprehensible, it'll cause you to fail to remember why you even cherished them in any case.

The following are a couple of stories from individuals who at last got out the scissors:

1. "I recruited my dearest friend of 43 years for an occasional occupation since she was in such desperate waterways monetarily. After two years, in the wake of seeing what an astonishing position I had, she figured out how to finagle her direction into landing my position by telling my supervisor, God just realizes what and afterward pushed me out. She's a sheep in fox clothing. I haven't addressed her in more than two years, yet I heard that she recently quit."
—Anonymous, 63, CA

2. "My sister has forever been the child of the family, and on the grounds that she and my mother are so similar, it implies that my mother allows her to pull off everything. This conduct went on into our grown-up lives. Regardless of this, my sister has been all Disgustingly envious of anything that I have that she doesn't, including garments, companions, and even boyfriends. I had as of late gotten drawn in to a brilliant man, and my sister was so steady in our commitment and arranging the wedding...like dubiously strong. She totally cherished my life partner and would welcome herself along on dates, and even to our cake tasting for the wedding. It was clear to me that she really liked my life partner, but since I love and trust him, it didn't irritate me to an extreme, until one day he came into our room white as a sheet.

I promptly asked him what was off-base, and he let me know that my sister had sent him nudes of herself, with a message that I couldn't have ever imagined."
"I was enraged and quickly went crazy on my sister. Be that as it may, I tragically told my parents what had occurred, and my mom agreed with my sister's position and attempted to inspire me to pardon her. My sister hadn't even apologized when I stood up to her; she recently began crying about how it was just a little unreasonable that I was getting married, while she had nobody. That day, I quit conversing with my sister, yet I additionally needed to quit conversing with my mother after she wouldn't concede that my sister had been self centered and accomplished something wrong. I'm presently married to that awesome man, and my sister and mom were not at the wedding, and I was more joyful for it."

—Anonymous, 46, GA

3. "When I first moved out of my parent's home in my mid 20s, I resided with this young lady that I worked with however didn't know quite well. She ate all of the food in the apartment continually, lied about Price of rent, and cleaned nothing. I could deal with those things. However at one point she began concealing in my closet when I emerged from the shower to 'cause me shock'. The third time, she had concealed in my bed with her shoes on while I was remaining there in only a towel. I moved back home two days after the fact, and she took my bathmat."

4. "I once had a man in my life who wouldn't quit addressing me in a child voice. Before you ask, it was anything but something unusual; it was only a voice he'd do to attempt to be charming, I presume. It was somewhat sweet from the start, yet he continued to do it constantly, particularly in broad daylight, as on dates or when we were shopping for food together, and it was very humiliating. I had requested that he quit it a couple of times, however he never viewed me in a serious way. I had figured out that my granddad had died unexpectedly, and was taking it truly hard. In quickly reserving flights and pressing so I could fly the nation over to be with my family, my man came into the house, tenderly took me in his arms, kissed the highest point of my head, and murmured, 'I'm sowwy your gwand-paw kicked the bucket.' in a child voice."
"To say that I saw red is putting it mildly, and I promptly drove him away and went, 'I really want you to leave the condo now before I offer something that I lament." He was stunned, and I kind of accommodated him again before I left for the memorial service, however every time I took a glance at him, I was unable to get the moment somewhere far away from me.

We separated after I got back home, and the child voice was certainly the straw that broke the camel's back, yet it absolutely helped that I referenced that I was thinking about letting him go to my mom, who quickly answered, 'Wonderful, I never loved him.'"
—Anonymous, 42, AK
5. "At the point when a 'friend' let me know that my relationship with my sibling was depraved on the grounds that I needed to invest time with him (sibling) while he was visiting from away as opposed to investing time with her (friend)."
—Anonymous, 45, SC

6. "I cut off a person that I was with when I tossed him a thoroughly examined impromptu get-together that elaborate his loved ones after his unique birthday plans were dropped because of the climate. At the point when we showed up at our party, he looked promptly disappointed and later admitted to me that he didn't think I arranged the party proficiently enough. Remember, that everybody at the party was living it up, and I recently started to understand that he has profound insecurity that had each piece to do with needing to have control as opposed to embrace the moment and value individuals who made an appearance for him."
—Sydney Sumner

7. "My mother attempted to offer my dog to pay for her bosom reduction surgery. "Sounds like a joke right? But that really happened."
——Anonymous, 34, UT

8. "I had a friend that was a regular party goer. That checks out. We were in our mid 20s, so it was practically anticipated. One evening, she had become particularly inebriated and ended up throwing up on me before everybody. She was sorry abundantly; I excused her. Half a month after the fact, we had gone out with a couple of our different friends; she became again intoxicated and threw up on me once more. As of now, it's like, what are the chances? This happened TWO additional times before I ultimately said that I won't drink with her any longer since she plainly couldn't hold her liquor. She exploded on me, blamed me for being a terrible friend, and blocked me on everything. Half a month after the fact, when obviously we wouldn't revive our relationship, I'm not humiliated to concede that I was bad-mouthing her to another friend, who conceded reality. "She had been becoming inebriated and throwing up on me at parties Deliberately."
"Evidently, my friend had despised me for some time and would deliberately become intoxicated and afterward upchuck on me intentionally to humiliate me. Right up to the present day, the most incredibly nauseating thing I've heard."
—Anonymous, 36, CA

9. "I cut off a white friend when I was unable to pardon his racism any longer. He said nothing conspicuously bigoted regarding Individuals of color (like me), yet he was tied in with building the wall to keep Central American immigrants out and other MAGA convictions. I called him out on every last bit of it, and I really felt that he could relax on the off chance that he just saw a greater amount of this country's set of experiences of abusing ethnic minorities. At the end of the day, I just felt like he considered me to be a special case — a 'decent' Individual of color, in a manner of speaking, who simply wasn't 'like the remainder.' In the end, I acknowledged that he was just racist as a general rule, and he presumably wasn't unmitigatedly racist about Individuals of color in my presence since I truly do accept he really focused on me as a friend. It was genuinely convoluted, yet I cut ties since he in a real sense was a racial oppressor and I was simply his symbolic Dark companion. I'm still miserable."

10. "At the point when I inquired as to why we hadn't engaged in sexual relations in more than seven days after ordinarily having gone no less than once per day for the principal year and his reaction was, 'All things considered, in the event that you want to get off, just come ask me.' Um, what about 'No.' I unexpectedly had a sensation that this has happened before in light of the fact that I understood that he'd recounted how his ex used to ask him exactly the same thing as they were approaching their separation. He'd been cheating for a month with me, come to find out, and afterward he'd been undermining me for a similar measure of time when I understood something was off. Yikes."
—Unknown

11. "My dearest friend failed to remember my birthday. She figured out that she missed it the day after I benevolently let her know. She said, 'Gracious, sorry, I completely forgot.' It caused me to feel truly miserable. A month prior to my birthday, she failed to remember her flat mate's birthday and gone crazy and made me take her to Party City and purchase many dollars worth of party enrichments — I'm talking a goliath cheerful birthday standard, in excess of 30 inflatables, decorations, and more than $75 in present cards. However, when it was my birthday, after I accomplished such a great deal for her, all she could offer was a 'Sorry, I completely forgot.' I'm not anticipating proceeding with our kinship any longer."
—Unknown, 23, NV

12. "My unvaccinated brother by marriage spit on my pregnant spouse (his sister) after we informed him that we didn't need him visiting our child since he had a higher probability of giving her Coronavirus."
—Unknown, 33, WA

13. "I had a neighbor who generally presented me as 'MY crazy friend _______.' I said that I didn't like that, but since she never truly tuned in, she continued to make it happen. Then, at some point, I understood I simply could have done without her."
—Unknown, 75, NC

14. "I cut off my egotistical sister, who had my father change his will three days before he kicked the bucket. The real day he passed on, she allowed me two months to pack out of his house. I'm visually impaired and wasn't working at that point, so I was on the telephone consistently with social service agencies, and they let me know that I needed no less than 90 days. She even had her attorney send three eviction notices. She then, at that point, paid herself $5,000 to be the agent and deducted $1,000 from me and $500 from my sibling for God knows what."
—Valerie ann

[Shereefah]

15. "My friend generally made things about herself. Upon the arrival of my wedding, each of the bridesmaids got together at the inn to get dressed and finish their cosmetics. During her whole cosmetics arrangement, she examined her wedding that occurred a long time earlier, exhaustively. Also the way in which she likewise expressed that she should get married at a similar scene, yet adjusted her perspective. I likewise figured out that she took extremely unattractive pictures of me while I was attempting to loosen up preceding the wedding."
—Unknown, 36, LA

16. "My man cheated on me with my closest friend, and I figured out subsequent to looking on his telephone and finding their instant messages discussing the amount they cherished one another, how they couldn't hold on to be together, how he was anticipating leaving me for her, and so on. I said nothing and gave either no sign that I knew. I only sat tight for an end of the week when I realize that he'd be out of the house we shared, got together my stuff, left, and at absolutely no point ever addressed both of them in the till now. Likewise, shock! They never really ended up dating each other. It just so happens, cheating isn't the groundwork of an ideal relationship! Who knew?"
—Unknown, 46, WA


17. "The day of my mom's memorial service, my 2 year old kid was sick. She didn't rest soundly that night and continued to wake up. My (then, at that point) spouse at last got up at 3 a.m. and showered, got his stuff for work (waking up our older child of 4 years), and said that on the off chance that he was unable to get any rest at home, he was going where he could rest' and fell asleep in the parking area at work in his vehicle. I realized then that the marriage was finished, however remained for 16 additional years until the children were grown-ups and there would be no authority issues. In the event that I was unable to rely upon him to be there during the most awful days of my life, I didn't believe he should be there during the best!"
—Unknown, 53, WI

18. "I generally disapproved of my friends being cliquey for some time, appearing in similar outfits to occasions, just spending time with one another, and so on. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was the point at which we as a whole chosen to go out traveling together, and they abandoned me in an obscure city to go drinking, then, at that point, accused me and shouted at me. They abandoned me in the city to cry in a major city while they kept on celebrating. Furthermore, they were my only way home. We should simply say it was a long five-hour drive home the following day. Half a month after the fact, I let them know that I was unable to be a friend to them any longer and that they were not in my wedding. Best choice I made."
—Unknown, 27, MI

19. "At the point when I was 16, my mother became ill with cancer, and my sisters and I went through the following two years cooperating to deal with her. My dad, who up until that point had been a decent dad and spouse, unexpectedly concluded that he wasn't up for both and basically became a non-attendant father while as yet residing in our home. After my mother died, he got remarried rapidly without examining it with us (I don't mean requesting our consent, I mean he simply never let us know that he was getting hitched until it had worked out) to a lady that we'd constantly thought he had been having an illicit relationship with while my mother was sick."
"In any case, my sisters and I set up with him since he was the only parent we had. We tried to welcome him to family occasions and occasions, however he for the most part brushed us off. Indeed, my more youthful sister got ready for marriage; she and her significant other concluded that they needed to display her ring after my mother's old wedding band, which was kept in a case at my dad's home after her death alongside different bits of her gems that would ultimately be given to us. My sister later called me in tears and let me know that my stepmother had auctions off my dead mother's all's adornments.

My sisters and I were naturally disturbed, despite the fact that my dad and stepmother attempted to support it by saying that they were certain that we wouldn't be keen on keeping the adornments. I and my kid sister concluded that was the final straw and wouldn't address our dad. My older sister chose to stop him a couple of years some other time when she went to a social occasion at my dad's home and saw my stepmother's sister WEARING ONE OF MY DEAD MOM'S Neckbands. She confronted my dad and stepmother about it, and they lied and attempted to persuade her that it wasn't the very neckband that my mom had. My sisters and I believe that before my dad and stepmother got a chunk of change for the gems, they presented first dibs to my stepmother's family, yet never viewed as the likelihood that we should keep some of it. The two of them irritates me, and I'm happy to be freed of them."
—Unknown, 53, MA


20. "I had been dating a man 10 years older than me for quite a long time. I believed he was cheating on me, yet I actually adored him and couldn't inspire myself to leave him. The straw that broke the camel's back came when he had bought a house and had day workers working for him. He regarded them as though they were underneath him and scarcely human. I was appalled to the point that I parted ways with him that day and that was the end."
—Unknown, 46, MA

21. "I had a friend who was well learned and invested heavily in calling out the letters after her name in at least one discussion when she would visit, particularly in the event that I had others over for her to dazzle. Each time we would hang out, she would need to help me to remember my absence of college training in underhanded commendations: 'Gracious goodness, you dealt with that all around well for somebody with no instruction in that field' or 'For somebody without a psychology degree, you're right on target.' The straw that broke the camel's back was her response when she found out that I got more cash-flow than her. She went, 'Are you kidding me? Also, I'm the one with the most study loans.' She was plainly stunned. After she left, I guaranteed I would at no point ever address her in the future, and I haven't."
—Unknown, 45, RI

22. "My closest friend of 10 years didn't figure she might have children, then, at that point, had two soon after I did. She's a housewife, and I work all day. I showed up at a party that she facilitated, and she was unable to comprehend how I found parenthood and dealing with my children so hard. She shared how she cooked, cleaned, and watched her children every day. It doesn't seem like a lot, however it put me past the brink. How is it that someone could be so insensitive and disengaged?"
—Unknown, 38, WI

23. "I cared for my father, who had dementia for two years. My sibling had Full legal authority and dove into his ledger while allocating me the assignment of really focusing on him. She never visited or called in the two years he was with me. At the point when he got downright horrendous, I told her that she expected to require some investment, and she took steps to place him in a nursing home. At the point when she recorded his papers to go to the nursing office, she sent me an email expressing that I expected to go acting with great humility to ask for her pardoning; any other way, she could never pardon me. She then spread lies about me to different kin. She had never been a major part of my life from the age of 13 to the present, so I chose to remove her totally. This time, it's the end."
—Unknown, 50, WA

24. "I never had a lot of additional cash. I make to the point of supporting my children and myself, however 'extra' cash... not much. My friend has forever been somewhat of a one-upper. Assuming you said you planned to set aside to get something, she'd run out and get it for herself. She continually boasts about the amount of money she possesses, what trip she's going, her shopping binges, and so forth. At the point when she bad-mouthed the house that I got on a very tight budget to purchase, that was the end of the friendship."
—Unknown, 44, IL

25. "At the point when I confessed to my closest friend, he was by all accounts OK with it from the start, and afterward returned close to two days after the fact to let me know that he had 'Prayed about it,' and keeping in mind that he actually needed to be my friend, he concluded that he wouldn't be able 'support my S*xuality.' In the five years that I'd known the person, he had never gone to a congregation, and had never referenced being a practising individual, so I have no clue about why he felt that was a good explanation."
—Unknown, 42, AZ

26. "At the point when he let me know that this was his best self. He could never fill anything else in character or faithfulness. I understood that what he brought to the table  wasn't adequate for me in the wake of being married for 17 years."
—Unknown, 36, CA

27. "I was the modest, revolting, plumpy or chubby friend growing up, while my closest friend was active and pretty. As we progressed in years, I certainly had a glow up (still plump — lovely as a result of it, not disregarding it), and I began definitely standing out from many individuals, particularly men. My friend would attempt to disrupt any discussion that I had with a person since she was unable to stand that a man was playing with her hefty measured friend and not her. I needed to drop her after I understood that she wasn't my friend due to the fact that she really liked me; she just loved the way she felt in contrast with me."
—Anonymous, 26, TN

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When was that moment you realized you needed to cut ties with a friend or family member?

[Ruthk]

Mine was when a friend who also happened to be a colleague (we met at the workplace and at first clicked) seduced a man that was asking me out.
It didn't bother me 'cause I knew I wasn't interested in the guy anyways.
But it revealed who she was to me, she also had this idea of somewhat talking down on me e.g "you that doesn't know how things are going in the outside world", "you lack exposure" blah blah blah. I will look at her and smile, this is someone that I'm way more exposed than in every ramifications but she thinks otherwise because i'm a covert....lol. An incident later happened to her and I was the one who suggested a "street solution" to her. She was flabbergasted!

Within me, I would just look at her and smile, ...."what does this one know"? But I keep looking 'cause I'm not like her and wouldn't be, my self esteem isn't damaged like hers it's intact, I don't need to put anyone down to feel good and I can't really be bothered if an irrelevant person or someone of little importance does that.

The straw broke when she seduced the man, and guess what? They didn't even date for 3 months😅

I didn't cut the ties immediately, (like I said I'm kind of a covert), it was little by little without her suspecting the actual reason, so even when they broke up I witnessed it.

[Unknown]

An interesting article, let me be unknown here too please. It happened when I fell pregnant in my year one in the university and needed to go for a termination. Try not to judge me, it was a terrible mistake.

Who do I know or where could I go? I went to my best friend of so many years, almost a childhood friend and opened up to her, I asked how she could help knowing fully well her mum dispenses medicine and she has some ideas about things like this.

She chipped in some ideas but little did I know that I have become the talk of the town, I discovered she tabled my matter on purpose with her sisters when next I visited their house and the two sisters starting mocking me not in my absence, in my presence please. The worse part was her younger sister who is more or less like a younger one to me also.

Well, serious friendship of so many years got broken at that point. What's the purpose of friendship if we can't keep each other's secrets? Especially the dirty ones. It's more than 10 years already.

My parents and siblings still ask of her from me till today, that's how close we were. I tell them we are all now busy with life. She had contacted me for a little financial help about a year ago which I did, but the friendship can never be there again.
Life goes on....

[Ruthk]

An interesting article, let me be unknown here too please. It happened when I fell pregnant in my year one in the university and needed to go for a termination. Try not to judge me, it was a terrible mistake.

Who do I know or where could I go? I went to my best friend of so many years, almost a childhood friend and opened up to her, I asked how she could help knowing fully well her mum dispenses medicine and she has some ideas about things like this.

She chipped in some ideas but little did I know that I have become the talk of the town, I discovered she tabled my matter on purpose with her sisters when next I visited their house and the two sisters starting mocking me not in my absence, in my presence please. The worse part was her younger sister who is more or less like a younger one to me also.

Well, serious friendship of so many years got broken at that point. What's the purpose of friendship if we can't keep each other's secrets? Especially the dirty ones. It's more than 10 years already.

My parents and siblings still ask of her from me till today, that's how close we are. I tell them we are all now busy with life. She had contacted me for a little financial help about a year ago which I did but the friendship can never be there again.
Life goes on....

This is serious! We ladies can be very appalling when it comes to the way we betray ourselves, it's just terrible. That was a bad experience, so sorry.

[Unknown]

This is serious! We ladies can be very appalling when it comes to the way we betray ourselves, it's just terrible. That was a bad experience, so sorry.

Thanks dearie.

[Rainy]

Alright, my uncle who happens to be a proprietor of the high school I attended intentionally didn't register me for an alternative high school graduation examination. All other classmates of mine were registered, his reasons... Till today no one knows. Although my dad who's his brother said what he told him was that I always perform excellently so he sees no reason why I needed the second/ alternative examination.

Before we got to know that I wasn't registered, I mean myself and my parents, time had gone. Registration closed!

All my mates were able to scale through this alternative examination while "none of us came out in flying colours with the main exam".

Almost all of them got admission on time except me, this delayed my tertiary education.

Well, I was offended but not much, I told my mum the next year that I didn't want anything to do with his school again, so my next registration must be in another school but it seems he knew our plans, this man got me registered this time immediately the registration started before we could even register somewhere else, and informed us about it. I got irritated really but still not much.

My plan was to re-enrolled properly as a student this time if it was another school but I couldn't due to the fact that it's the same school. I just studied at home and started writing the exam when it was time.

So one day, I entered the school compound and met him having a meeting with the teachers, of course, I only go in to the school when it was time for my exams and only with a T-shirt on, when I get into the school compound, I'll wear the school shirt on top of my breathable t-shirt. Not only me, there were many of us like that. Most people who weren't regular students, just there for the exam, were free to act this way.

That faithful day as I entered the school compound he pointed at me to come, I wondered why he would call me to a place where he was having a meeting with the teachers. I went to him anyways, and the next thing I saw was a HOT SLAP on my face, I was slapped heavily by him. I wish I was kidding but this is for real. Why he did that? Till today I don't have a clue as there were many external registered candidates that came in after me and even wore mufti and changed inside the school before proceeding to the exam hall.

But at this point, one thing became certain, all his actions from the past till that point was purposely to "HUMILIATE ME". Isn't it obvious? One of my immediate juniors came to meet me later that day and said "I'm so sorry, your uncle shouldn't have done that to you under any circumstances due to the condition on ground". Yes, they all saw the scene from their different classrooms.

Since I finished that exam several years ago, there has not been a tangible communication or relationship between me and him. That was really the end!

[Bigowl]

Mine was when a friend who also happened to be a colleague (we met at the workplace and at first clicked) seduced a man that was asking me out.
It didn't bother me 'cause I knew I wasn't interested in the guy anyways.
But it revealed who she was to me, she also had this idea of somewhat talking down on me e.g "you that doesn't know how things are going in the outside world", "you lack exposure" blah blah blah. I will look at her and smile, this is someone that I'm way more exposed than in every ramifications but she thinks otherwise because i'm a covert....lol. An incident later happened to her and I was the one who suggested a "street solution" to her. She was flabbergasted!

Within me, I would just look at her and smile, ...."what does this one know"? But I keep looking 'cause I'm not like her and wouldn't be, my self esteem isn't damaged like hers it's intact, I don't need to put anyone down to feel good and I can't really be bothered if an irrelevant or someone of little importance does that.

The straw broke when she seduced the man, and guess what? They didn't even date for 3 months😅

I didn't cut the ties immediately, (like I said I'm kind of a covert), it was little by little without her suspecting the actual reason, so even when they broke up I witnessed it.

Perhaps that's why you are strongly against keeping a friend in a workplace  on this thread

[Ruthk]

Alright, my uncle who happens to be a proprietor of the high school I attended intentionally didn't register me for an alternative high school graduation examination. All other classmates of mine were registered, his reasons... Till today no one knows. Although my dad who's his brother said what he told him was that I always perform excellently so he sees no reason why I needed the second/ alternative examination.

Before we got to know that I wasn't registered, I mean myself and my parents, time had gone. Registration closed!

All my mates were able to scale through this alternative examination while "none of us came out in flying colours with the main exam".

Almost all of them got admission on time except me, this delayed my tertiary education.

Well, I was offended but not much, I told my mum the next year that I didn't want anything to do with his school again, so my next registration must be in another school but it seems he knew our plans, this man got me registered this time immediately the registration started before we could even register somewhere else, and informed us about it. I got irritated really but still not much.

My plan was to re-enrolled properly as a student this time if it was another school but I couldn't due to the fact that it's the same school. I just studied at home and started writing the exam when it was time.

So one day, I entered the school compound and met him having a meeting with the teachers, of course, I only go in to the school when it was time for my exams and only a T-shirt, when I get into the school compound, I'll wear the school shirt on top of my breathable t-shirt. Not only me, there were many of us like that. Most people who weren't regular students, just there for the exam, were free to act this way.

That faithful day as I entered the school compound he pointed at me to come, I wondered why he would call me to a place where he was having a meeting with the teachers. I went to him anyways, and the next thing I saw was a HOT SLAP on my face, I was slapped heavily by him. I wish I was kidding but this is for real. Why he did that? Till today I don't have a clue as there were many external registered candidates that came in after me and even wore mufti and changed inside the school before proceeding to the exam hall.

But at this point, one thing became certain, all his actions from the past till that point was purposely to "HUMILIATE ME". Isn't it obvious? One of my immediate juniors came to meet me later that day and said "I'm so sorry, your uncle shouldn't have done that to you under any circumstances due to the condition on ground". Yes, they all saw the scene from their different classrooms.

Since I finished that exam several years ago, there has not been a tangible communication or relationship between me and him. That was really the end!

This is another level of toxicity, the most toxic story I ever read. Thank goodness you cut ties with that kind of good for nothing uncle, it's obvious he needed you to always rob his ego, he would have done more.

[Ruthk]

Perhaps that's why you are strongly against keeping a friend in a workplace  on this thread

Maybe, but this whole friendship thing is just totally out of my way. I don't need friends anymore, my mum is enough and if I get a good man in the nearest future that would be an additional friend.

[Ticam]

This is another level of toxicity, the most toxic story I ever read. Thank goodness you cut ties with that kind of good for nothing uncle, it's obvious he needed you to always rob his ego, he would have done more.

That's more than "good for nothing". The uncle screams "I'm a complete narcissist". I'm glad you run from him @Rainy.

[Bigowl]

Maybe, but this whole friendship thing is just totally out of my way. I don't need friends anymore, my mum is enough and if I get a good man in the nearest future that would be an additional friend.

Hmm! Experience is the best teacher. I don't support the workplace friendship idea too though, you should notice on the thread. @ your last sentence, we will all get what we are hoping for, all our prayers would be answered.

[Ticam]

Mine was when I asked for a small favour from a friend to sponsor my movement from one city to another due to job loss. I knew for some reasons that our friendship was over even before then but at that point he told me he was broke.

Anyone could be broke, I was too and that's why I needed his help right? So, no big deal.

The shocking was that two months or thereabout later he bought a bigger car, not saying I wasn't happy for him. However the fact he couldn't loan me the little token I requested and bought a whole car some weeks after shows his kind of friend.

Like I said I was already waving him goodbye before due to some reasons (which revolves around his insensitive nature). Whether he borrowed me the money or not wouldn't have mattered much, and I was surely going to refund.
But that action buttressed the point that he shouldn't be in my life.

Before you start calling me a hater, note that the little token I asked for wouldn't have affected his purchase of the car in any way.

[Ruthk]

Hmm! Experience is the best teacher. I don't support the workplace friendship idea too though, you should notice on the thread. @ your last sentence, we will all get what we are hoping for, all our prayers would be answered.

Amen

[Biu]

Alright, my uncle who happens to be a proprietor of the high school I attended intentionally didn't register me for an alternative high school graduation examination. All other classmates of mine were registered, his reasons... Till today no one knows. Although my dad who's his brother said what he told him was that I always perform excellently so he sees no reason why I needed the second/ alternative examination.

Before we got to know that I wasn't registered, I mean myself and my parents, time had gone. Registration closed!

All my mates were able to scale through this alternative examination while "none of us came out in flying colours with the main exam".

Almost all of them got admission on time except me, this delayed my tertiary education.

Well, I was offended but not much, I told my mum the next year that I didn't want anything to do with his school again, so my next registration must be in another school but it seems he knew our plans, this man got me registered this time immediately the registration started before we could even register somewhere else, and informed us about it. I got irritated really but still not much.

My plan was to re-enrolled properly as a student this time if it was another school but I couldn't due to the fact that it's the same school. I just studied at home and started writing the exam when it was time.

So one day, I entered the school compound and met him having a meeting with the teachers, of course, I only go in to the school when it was time for my exams and only a T-shirt, when I get into the school compound, I'll wear the school shirt on top of my breathable t-shirt. Not only me, there were many of us like that. Most people who weren't regular students, just there for the exam, were free to act this way.

That faithful day as I entered the school compound he pointed at me to come, I wondered why he would call me to a place where he was having a meeting with the teachers. I went to him anyways, and the next thing I saw was a HOT SLAP on my face, I was slapped heavily by him. I wish I was kidding but this is for real. Why he did that? Till today I don't have a clue as there were many external registered candidates that came in after me and even wore mufti and changed inside the school before proceeding to the exam hall.

But at this point, one thing became certain, all his actions from the past till that point was purposely to "HUMILIATE ME". Isn't it obvious? One of my immediate juniors came to meet me later that day and said "I'm so sorry, your uncle shouldn't have done that to you under any circumstances due to the condition on ground". Yes, they all saw the scene from their different classrooms.

Since I finished that exam several years ago, there has not been a tangible communication or relationship between me and him. That was really the end!

That's an uncle from the pit of hell. How can anyone be so insensitive?

[Biu]

Mine was when I asked for a small favour from a friend to sponsor my movement from one city to another due to job loss. I knew for some reasons that our friendship was over even before then but at that point he told me he was broke.

Anyone could be broke, I was too and that's why I needed his help right? So, no big deal.

The shocking was that two months or thereabout later he bought a bigger car, not saying I wasn't happy for him. However the fact he couldn't loan me the little token I requested and bought a whole car some weeks after shows his kind of friend.

Like I said I was already waving him goodbye before due to some reasons (which revolves around his insensitive nature). Whether he borrowed me the money or not wouldn't have mattered much, and I was surely going to refund.
But that action buttressed the point that he shouldn't be in my life.

Before you start calling me a hater, note that the little token I asked for wouldn't have affected his purchase of the car in any way.

No one would call you a hater, you did well by cutting an extremely selfish person off your neck.
An old friend told me something close to this, a story where a man experienced a job loss and after some time the wife went ahead and bought a car without the husband having any engagement and without her attempting to help the man get up again in any way. It was the thought of how could a wife I married turn how to be this callous that finally killed the man.
I'm not judging but your friend seems to be someone who could do the same. You did well.

[SweetNamida]

Mine was when I asked for a small favour from a friend to sponsor my movement from one city to another due to job loss. I knew for some reasons that our friendship was over even before then but at that point he told me he was broke.

Anyone could be broke, I was too and that's why I needed his help right? So, no big deal.

The shocking was that two months or thereabout later he bought a bigger car, not saying I wasn't happy for him. However the fact he couldn't loan me the little token I requested and bought a whole car some weeks after shows his kind of friend.

Like I said I was already waving him goodbye before due to some reasons (which revolves around his insensitive nature). Whether he borrowed me the money or not wouldn't have mattered much, and I was surely going to refund.
But that action buttressed the point that he shouldn't be in my life.

Before you start calling me a hater, note that the little token I asked for wouldn't have affected his purchase of the car in any way.

What if he got the money for the car within the two months? You never can tell🤷

[Ticam]

What if he got the money for the car within the two months? You never can tell🤷

Lol, he doesn't do business, he is a salary earner. I know him too well, he saves. He saves to acquire things like that.

[Ticam]

A story where a man experienced a job loss and after some time the wife went ahead and bought a car without the husband having any engagement and without her attempting to help the man get up again in any way.

😲Wonders shall never end

It was the thought of how could a wife I married turn how to be this callous that finally killed the man.
I'm not judging but your friend seems to be someone who could do the same. You did well.

I know, right?

[Mafy]

Number 17 is the baddest of them all, just like someone saying I knew right from few years after marriage this can't be forever but had to wait for 16 good more years to get it disentangled.
@Ruthk , your covertness is learning where that woman's is.
Hope you know.